This week, registration opened for my brand new online course called The 6 Week Sugar Freedom eCourse. I am thrilled to have birthed my second “child” into the world (my firstborn was my book!) and, much in the same way I asked you NOT to buy my book, I am asking you NOT to buy my course.
Let me explain.
This past weekend, I received an email from someone I had been coaching on my 28 Day Kick The Sugar Challenge back in February. They had struggled with sugar addiction and weight for their entire life.
We spent many, many hours in private messages with one another, in my online calls, and chatting in the Facebook group, talking about how food and sugar had shown up for them. I encouraged them to do the homework assignments and get to the root of their sugar history and to take on the Challenge with vigor and enthusiasm, which they did. They were elated with their results and they were thrilled to be working with me and connecting with others in the group.
Two months later, at a family celebration, they binged with sugar and things started to unravel and they became distant despite my many attempts to reach out and support them.
In their email this past weekend, they told me that the reason for their inability to continue with the lifestyle they had started to create was because my personality didn’t mesh with theirs.
I get it.
It wasn’t the first time I’d received this kind of feedback.
I can be intense. I can be overly optimistic and I have been accused of being “too much” for some people. The thing is, I am not everyone’s cup of tea and I never will be.
And I have come to realize that this means I get to serve the world in a bigger, not smaller, way.
Because when I can let go of having to please everyone; morphing my personality to fit the needs of others, I do a disservice to all those who do resonate with me.
And YOU are who I am here for. I have been put on this planet to serve YOU.
The way I serve won’t feel right for everyone and I am completely at peace, for the first time in my life, with that fact.
I watched my father struggle to make sure everyone liked him. He sought approval so strongly that it almost broke him. I carried on that trait and have been a recovering “people pleaser” since getting sober. It has been a big part of my personal journey over the past 15 years.
For so long, I wouldn't show up in my own life for fear of criticism or ridicule. For so long, I shrunk myself in order to make others feel comfortable.
I lived on the periphery.
But since "coming out to the world" when I launched my blog, I have opened my life up for others to judge, criticize and also resonate with me.
And while my approach to my work with food, weight, sugar and health won't be a fit for everyone, I am thrilled by the knowledge that I have helped so many people and I can't wait to help more.
I am so grateful for this person's letter. Because after the initial surprise by their potentially hurtful words, I realized what a gift they had given me. I was able to fully embrace that not everyone will like me or appreciate my work, and I am reminded of Wes Moore's words when he spoke with Oprah about making decisions to make others feel good instead of making the right ones for ourselves.
He said, "Don't let people who don't matter too much, matter too much."
Don't get me wrong; I love this person and I wish them well on their journey. But I can't let their words and feelings about me, be about ME! Their struggles, their issues, their journey is theirs, not mine. And I am not willing, nor do I deserve, to take ownership over other people's results.
Good or bad.
While it feels wonderful, of course, when people send me letters and emails and messages thanking me for all they've gained through my work, I remember that it is not mine; it is theirs, and I am mindful to carefully place the power back in their hands. I thank them for their words but remind them that they, not I, did the work. I simply arrived in their lives at the right time and had a message that resonated with them.
"When the student is ready, the teacher will appear".
My online course won't be for everyone. My approach won't be for everyone. And that's perfectly ok.
Because here's the truth about me: I will not sugar coat things (pun intended). I will tell you what I feel you need to know about sugar, food and what's really going on out there. I will share with you the truth about how I have managed to stay healthy and fit and be in the best shape of my life, mentally, physically and emotionally, at the age of 44.
I will share how, after years of alcohol abuse, I have been able to thrive in my life, living with passion and purpose, using mindfulness, self-care, food and exercise as my pathways to wellness.
I won't coddle you, telling you it's ok if you make a decision and then make choices that go against it.
I will push you. I will encourage you. I will keep you accountable and I will serve you in the best way I know how--with love and respect and a strong sense of integrity.
So don't buy my course if you don't want to do things differently.
Don't buy my course if you have no desire to change.
Don't buy my course if you want me to say "it's ok" every time you make a decision that takes you further from the goals you have laid out for yourself.
I am a coach, not only a cheerleader. I want to lift you up and show you a way that will help you achieve your goals.
I want you to win.
Because I am here to serve.
And if you hear the call, then I can't wait to serve you.
Because I want you to love your life one bite at a time.
P.S. To learn more about the course and to see if there is a fit, click here. For a ONE TIME investment, you will receive six weekly video lessons from me, a weekly online Q&A session, and access to a private Facebook group. I have other bonuses in store as well, so click here for all the details!
P.P.S. I have had a lot of people ask me what the differences are between my book and my online course. The Course is rooted in the same philosophies as the book. These are my beliefs and attitudes towards wellness that carry me through my life, and which I wish to share with you. But where the book is more of an individual approach, requiring readers to implement the strategies on their own. the course allows you to connect with me, via video, and allows you to be a more active participant in the process. I will make sure you are keeping up with the content and homework, and making the changes to your life that you set out to make. You will also connect with a group of other people on the same journey, which keeps us all accountable and makes it more fun! Also, there is no Challenge attached to the Course, meaning we don't do a sugar cleanse, per se. While I offer a lot of tips and strategies for living a healthier lifestyle, and some people will want to do the Challenge in tandem or perhaps afterwards, it is not mandatory, nor is it discussed much in the course. I hope this helps!