On Saturday, I celebrated my 48th birthday. I wanted to share some of my thoughts around the concept of aging. And growing. Because the two didn’t happen in tandem for me. Maybe you can relate?

Growing ourselves personally is hard. For anyone who’s read the books and implemented the strategies, gone to therapy, hired the coaches, taken the courses and then dug in and done the work, you’ll know first-hand just how painful it can be to stretch outside your comfort zone.

It’s suuuuper uncomfortable!

And yet the results are so incredibly worth the effort, that despite the pain, those of you who continue to seek and stretch and grow, you keep going there; you keep doing the thing you need to do to get yourself to the next, deeper level of consciousness; to experience a deeper awareness about who you are.

You sit in the discomfort without trying to escape, escape, escape.

You speak your truth.

You seek the therapy.

You peel away and you get the healing.

And you keep going deeper.

You realize there is no “end”; just more depth.

You see, we were never meant to simply age. We were meant to grow. And growing isn’t a passive exercise. It takes effort, often painful effort.

When I was a nightly drinker, pack-a-day-smoker and daily junk food eater, I was on a never ending cycle of wash-rinse-repeat. I used to wake up to the screeching of my alarm clock, head foggy, mouth dry and I’d drag myself to the bathroom to pull myself together for yet another day of posing as a fully functioning human being.

My rock bottom was not only the wake-up call I needed to stop murdering my life, it was my entry point into personal development. It opened my eyes to the fundamental truth that I get to co-create my life and that I am NOT a victim. That while not everything is within my control, so much is. And that, with the help of God or the universe or the sun+moon (whatever you like to call it), I GET to do what I want with my one precious life.

As much as we feel stuck in to-dos and obligations and expectations of family and friends around us, only WE are living these lives. No one else. And if we aren’t happy with the way they’re going, then WE must be the change we wish to see. We can’t keep pointing the finger at people and circumstances for why we haven’t achieved the things we want to achieve in our lives. We get to take our power back whenever we choose.

It is our choice to make.

11 years ago this past weekend (my birthday weekend!), I made a choice to attend an event. Little did I know at the time that my partner, Roger, was also attending a personal development event. The theme of his event was healthy relationships, and he was seeking to create a healthier dynamic with his then-girlfriend. They’d been struggling for years with their communication and Roger was craving more depth, connection and vulnerability, but he struggled with knowing how to ask for what he wanted.

The event I attended was called “Just Say Yes”, and the theme spoke to me as I’d just quit my job at a marketing firm and was looking for motivation, inspiration and guidance on which way to turn. The entire weekend provided an opportunity to go within and I was so grateful to my parents who treated me to the weekend including the stay at the boutique hotel where the event was being held. It was a life-changing event for me, and when Roger and I became a couple and discovered what we were each doing on that very same weekend, we were blown away. We compared our notes and it was amazing to see how our values aligned through what he was focusing on (finding a partner he could share his true self with) and what I was focusing on (creating a career path that would allow me to share my passion for helping people enjoy better health and energy).

It felt incredibly meant-to-be that on the very same weekend, we were both been seeking something more for ourselves and that we each found an event to help us move to the next level in our lives and relationships. We still have our notes and letters from that weekend and we read through them every year on what we deem our anniversary (we aren’t married), January 1st.

Over the years, Roger and I have gone through more growing pains in our relationship than we’d experienced in every other one of our relationships combined. And while that’s been incredibly painful, it has stretched and grown us into newer versions of ourselves that we wouldn’t have grown into without putting in the time and effort required to evolve. And we’ve become serial entrepreneurs along the way because it’s our passion to share what we’ve learned with others.

Growing ourselves is never easy, but if we want different, we must be brave enough to do different! We can’t keep complaining about the state of our lives as a strategy to exact change. Why? Because it doesn’t work! The universe rewards action, not complaining. When we complain, it simply hears the complaint (as neither positive or negative, by the way, just as it is) and so it delivers more and more of it our way.

Want more money? Stop complaining about debt and find ways to save money, earn more income, stop mindless spending and consider hiring a money coach to help you.

Want better health? Stop complaining about lack of energy or weight and drink a glass of water next time you want a Coke. Consider reading books about health, buy a new pair of running shoes, join a gym, hire a trainer, learn from experts or hire a health coach to help you improve your situation.

Want better sex? Help with your career? Happier children? Learn and implement strategies, read books that are recommended, listen to podcasts, hire coaches and engage others.

It’s incredible what we can manifest if we focus our energy on the things we actually want to see materialize.

Over the years, Roger and I have sought counselling to work on our relationship. We’ve also worked with business coaches, spiritual healers, teachers and experts who have helped us get to the next level in our lives, and this past weekend, my 48th birthday weekend, once again, we decided to invest in our personal and professional development. While we did get out on a hike and enjoyed some yummy food with family to celebrate my special day, the majority of the weekend was spent in front of our computers as I attended an online marketing event and Roger planned out his entire social media strategy for a launch that’s coming down the pipe. We realize that birthdays come and go, but opportunities to take programs and invest time into ourselves are where we build real value and wealth not only for ourselves but for the people we serve, as well.

Remember, having nice things is great, but real wealth comes from our health and our energy. It comes from showing up every single day seeking to become the very best version of ourselves and sharing our unique gifts and talents with the world.

And we all have them.

The investment you make in YOU, in finding and using your unique gifts, is the stuff that no one can ever take away. Every single thing we learn helps us become better versions of ourselves and it improves the world around us when we learn–and then teach what we’ve learned–to others.

So whatever it is that makes you say, “I’d love to learn about that!” or “I wish I could do that!” or “That would be so cool to do…”, lean into that feeling! That whisper is there for a reason. Follow the trail of breadcrumbs. They are leading you closer to yourself.

Because the world needs all of us more fully grown into ourselves.

Because I want you to love your life one bite at a time.

P.S. If YOU want to stretch and grow with a certified health coach who is anti-diet culture, remember I offer private coaching as well as group coaching. My next round of group coaching starts November 16th, 2020. If you are looking to improve your body image, stop dieting, and create a massive mindset shift that will allow you to live with more joy and freedom around food, then I’d love to see if we are a good fit. Learn more and book your FREE consultation by visiting

P.P.S. If you’d like to join a group of like-minded people on a wellness journey, you’re invited to join my FREE Facebook group called One Bite At A Time, where we share tips, resources and inspiration within a community of others seeking greater health+energy. Join us!

P.P.P.S. Here are a bunch of the Frequently Asked Questions I get about my 12 week group program. Let me know if you have any others by emailing me at


Do you only coach women? Nope! I coach people with a human body and my programs are applicable to everyone. We are an inclusive group and do not tolerate discrimination of any kind in our spaces.

Do you only coach people in recovery or those who are overweight? No. I coach all people who are seeking a healthier lifestyle and who want to live with more freedom around food, sugar, weight and their body. Often, people who do my program have either quit drinking or want to quit drinking/cut down and/or lose weight, and I work with anyone who is contemplating making a health change, no matter how that looks for them. 

Is your program offered in person or online? Online. You can live anywhere and access it!

What is your program about? My program is essentially MY personal recovery program; the one I patchworked together for myself 18+ years ago and all the way up to today! I share the best of what I’ve learned from the many teachers, coaches, experts and healers who have lit my path as well as the countless books I’ve read, documentaries I’ve watched, and research I’ve conducted (both primary and secondary) that’s all complimented my education to become a health coach.

I believe in a holistic approach, so we don’t isolate the physical from the mental and emotional; we work through exercises designed to help us integrate all aspects of ourselves and to heal in a way that allows us to move out of our past & future, and into the present; the only thing we ever have. You can see the entire curriculum at by clicking “Learn More” and if you have any questions, feel free to email me at

Who are you and what do you teach? I’m Sarah! And I’m a woman in long-term recovery from alcohol addiction. I went from being a pack-a-day smoker, nightly drinker, and late-night junk food eater to a woman who cares for–and about–herself in ways I truly never thought possible. I became a health coach to share my best practices–everything that worked really well for me in my life around mindset, fitness and food after I got sober 18+ years ago. Along with teaching my students the basics of nutrition, how to navigate the world of sugar, meal-planning 101, and cooking easy recipes together, we learn how to soothe our emotions without food and we go below the surface to understand ourselves and our behaviors better. We learn healthier ways to communicate, we learn to be more purposeful with our time, we learn to let things go, and we learn how to never, ever, ever go “on” or “off” a diet again. Ever. (Hint: because they work in the exact opposite way than we think they do!)

I’ve tried everything to lose weight. How is your program different? The biggest difference with my program is that it’s got nothing to do with dieting, restricting or sacrificing. It’s all about learning to cultivate a relationship with our bodies. I’ve cultivated a relationship of deep love and trust with my body and I teach others how to do the same with theirs. Caring for and nurturing our incredible, resilient, forgiving, capable, powerful bodies (and BRAINS!) is the most loving thing we can do.

While it’s not really about the food, but rather our mindset and behaviors around food, we certainly talk food all the way along because we still need to make sure we fully understand food and the way it works in the body (and brain!). Doing so makes creating a healthy lifestyle so much easier! It allows us to start wherever we are and know that every single decision we make to nourish and nurture our bodies, counts. The opposite is also true. In my program, we work to arrive at a place where we feel a sense of love and reverence for our body.

How long does your program run and does it run year round? OBAAT runs for 12 weeks and is held 4 times a year, seasonally. The next (Fall) session starts on Monday, November 16th and runs until February 7th, 2020. Once you enroll ONE time, you get unlimited FREE access to ALL future group rounds of OBAAT that I run. Some of my students have been with me since the very beginning as a way for them to stay inspired, motivated, accountable as well as being able to dig deeper into the emotional work of the program.

How much does your program cost? My program costs $497 USD which works out to about $6 per day over 12 weeks. Remember, you get FREE access if you choose to go through any future rounds of OBAAT, so that price could end up being much, much lower. 🙂

What does the program entail/What comes with it? The program consists of 12 weekly lessons, or “trainings” delivered via video inside your Private Member Portal. Each training is between 30 minutes and an hour in length. Each week, you’ll be assigned homework and mid-week, you’ll have a live coaching call with me, via Zoom; You’ll receive a digital copy of my Recipe Guide; a private Facebook group for your group alone–a great place to find community and accountability partners; a digital copy of my book upon completion; and access to me inside the private Facebook group, or via email or text, if needed between weekly live calls.

How much time each week should I set aside for this program? Plan for 30-60 mins to watch the training. As for the assignments, you’ll find they vary widely from person to person and based on how deep you want to go/how much time you want to spend cooking, etc. So, it’s completely up to each student how much time they spend.

When are the weekly trainings available?The first one in the September 2020 round goes up on September 8th. After that, tranings become available every Monday at 5 am ET. They are located inside your private member portal.

When are the live calls? For the September 2020 group, they run on Wednesday nights at 7 pm ET.

How do I access the live calls? We use Zoom. There will be a link that we’ll use every week that I will email you and also share in our private Facebook group.

What if I can’t make it to a Wednesday class? You are encouraged to block it off in your schedule as it’s your opportunity to ask questions and receive coaching, but if you can’t make it to a live class, not to worry! You can always catch the replay (and ask me questions ahead of time in the Facebook group, if you like).

Does everyone see and hear me on their computers? Only if you want us to. You can turn your camera and your microphone off, if you like, but you’re welcome to share and we create safe spaces.

Do you only coach people of a certain age? No. I coach adults from age 18 to 118 (no offence to 119 year olds) 😉

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